anger agreements in marriage

1. Acknowledge the reality of your anger, remembering that anger itself is not sinful.

2. Agree to acknowledge anger to each other. Do not make your mate “guess” about how you’re feeling.

3. Agree that verbal or physical explosions against the other person are not appropriate reactions to anger – they will always make things worse.

4. Agree to seek an explanation before jumping to conclusions. The person may supply valuable missing information that could change your understanding of the issue.

5. Agree to seek resolution and reconciliation. With more information from your spouse and the fuller perspective, you are ready to find a solution satisfactory to both of you.

6. Agree to affirm your love for each other. After the resolution is resolved, verbally declare your love for each other.



Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way by Gary D. Chapman, 2007.